When we go into an ice cream parlor, we see these wide range of flavours. Chocolate, chocolate nuts, American nuts, Cake and Caramel etc. You cant decide what you want and all seem delicious. So how do you solve this conundrum? You ask the guy “Can I taste this flavour?” After tasting all, you decide you want to go with Anjeer and honey (Not a bad flavour if anyone was wondering). When you decide to go for clothes shopping. Same scenario. Instead of eating them, you see in which set of shirts or tops you look amazing. It is by default that clothing outlets have change rooms for you try on the clothes. But for many things you cant check if it is what it sounds like. Packed food is a great example. Probably the schezwan flavour noodles have no flavour only when you eat them. Sometimes you go in a restaurant you see a lovely sounding dish, only to realise that it is not that great. Usually for such situations, we will order only one, taste it and order more. The most common example is life. In life you have to choose something and live with it for the rest of your life. This is the story with most of us.
From childhood, we have to choose things and live with those consequences, good or bad. We plead, do tantrums for that one toy or chocolate. Our parents, give in looking at our puppy faces. They give us what we want but sometimes we dont like it. We say we want something else but our parents wont budge now. So we now live with our choice of toy. We are sad but a tad bit wiser. Sometimes we have to choose a future career at an age of 16. Teenage, what an age it is, the most confusing time of our entire life. Wondering where I am in my life, keeping myself fashionable so that my crush can notice me, the will to try new and daring things. At this age, we are asked to choose a path that we will have to follow for the rest of our lives. Sometimes we choose a right path but falter in the following choices. Sometimes it is a wrong path altogether. What happens if we choose a wrong path? Live with it or so the society has led us to believe. There is taboo with such things. Once you decide the path of “science” and spent 2 years only to realise that this isn’t what you want to do, people say you have to stay on “science” only. It is wrong to go to “arts” and try it. Those 2 years you already spent must mean something. Going to “arts” will make it worthless. “What will you tell people?” “This isn’t worth the risk” These are some thoughts that you have or your parents/friends/relatives put in your head. So what do we do? We just live with our choices, trying to hold on and grasping at whatever happiness we find in it.
Sometimes when we decide to opt for a specific job, we assume this is how my job will be. But what a surprise it comes when we start doing it. This is not what I thought it would be like. Majority of the time, it is in a negative way. Afterall 60% of people are unhappy at their jobs. But by this time, we are adults. We have various responsibilities. It seems too risky to change your job now. You are surrounded by these risk and reward systems. But usually the risk is somehow very high. We rather be unhappy at our jobs than take a leap of faith for a better and happier one. Sometimes the situations demand you to be chained to that job,like for financial stability you would suffer at that job. Very few people have the guts to change their jobs. Even fewer people are rewarded for this sadly. Like everyone on this earth, people ask the one question “Why be a cook/writer/banker after doing engineering/medicine?” Somehow this thing comes off as they are doubting you. They doubt your abilities and decision making skills. Sometimes they really do, as i mentioned above, taboo it is to change a major decision. Evenif some do change their professions, sometimes it is too late. Many change it, when they are older and the risk has lessened. Their kid is older now. He doesn’t have to take care of his family now, since there is a new man in the house. It is now that they find peace, after years of sailing in uncharted waters.
These same things arise in relationships. Your friend or bestie or love patner. These things always start with trial and error. You like someone and most of the time they like you too. So how does the relationship become intimate? You open up from a bud to a flower with them and you wait to see if they also are opening up or no. Sometimes they do sometimes they dont. But if they dont, the relationship usually ends as it seems one sided. This whole thing, you cant predict. Unless you try it you wont know. And unfortunately this will stick with you. This might often affect your decision making skills. It is upto us how to take this in whether it a big chapter or a side note. Sometimes your choice is right and you will find someone who is just amazing and no one can take the place they have created, just like kawai-sakura. Arranged marriages are examples where you have to live through them. Though nowadays people just tend to divorce sooner. It is just so simple to hear “We are different and incompatible”. But where do you decide where to stop trying to make it work?
It is so weird this world we live in. We have choices but we dont have the time to try them all out like we can in an ice cream parlor. It is a taboo to change a life decision and most often it is because of the type of situation we are in that makes us unable to do so. Maybe sometime down the line, we can make such decisions with ease and that make our lives better.